Tips for a Conflict-free
Forty million Britons plan to holiday in July and August and catch up on some much needed R&R. At the top of the wish list of most holidaying couples is that the holiday be as relaxing and stress-free as possible. After all, that is the whole point of going on holiday in the first place. Unfortunately, the stress of organising a holiday can bring underlying tensions in the relationship to the surface. Rather than enjoying a well-deserved break from work and a routine life at home, summer holidays can stoke up arguments and resentment, particularly when things don´t go as well as planned. Many relationship counsellors report a noticeable increase in couples seeking counselling after a summer vacation.
So what can a couple do to avoid a stressful holiday? Read on for our tips that help secure a smooth, argument-free vacation:
Talk Before the Trip
Make some time to sit down together and discuss what you both want from your time off – you may have quite different ideas as to what would make a successful holiday. Talking about it openly beforehand enables you to learn what the other is hoping to do during the trip. Focus on what you do want rather than what you don´t want. This gives a positive energy to the conversation and minimises the chance of any tensions surfacing.
You may need to talk about and negotiate for compromises. For example, if one of you wants to spend time alone and the other is looking forward to spending most of the time together, you might need to compromise on how you plan to balance your time. Although you might have met each other through one of several free dating sites, or maybe a UK Christian dating site, and you hit it off, any relationship takes work. Understanding that compromises are necessary when you fail to see eye-to-eye with each other on how best to spend your holiday.
Before the trip, plan who will take responsibility for what, such as: who is booking the holiday, who will do the packing for the holiday, who is taking care of transport during the holiday, who is responsible for entertaining any children during the trip.
Quantity isn´t Quality
Being close or feeling connected as a couple doesn´t mean you have to spend every waking minute of the day together. Engaging in separate activities means you can both get your needs met even if you´re partial to doing different things. Such an agreement allows each of you to feel trusted and respected within the relationship. Talking about your experience over a drink later on can be a wonderful way of stoking the relationship by creating a feeling of connectedness. Good communication is the key to avoiding or alleviating any tensions that may arise during a holiday.
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